I don’t know what to do besides the near-impossible obvious which is – find another job.

I hate my work. I’m an exec assistant, and at first, I was ok with the job. We had some personality conflicts after about a year. He tried to get way too deep in my personal life – since he thought his dumping his personal life on me was a quid pro quo affair. I don’t want him digging in my spiritual life – no matter how much he’s told me about his. I don’t think it’s appropriate or that I owe him that.

After that upset (where he made comments and suggestions that were out of line), he went on to become even more insensitive during my dealing with a broken ankle and being in a wheelchair/on crutches. I could not drive for months, and I was majorly inconvenienced by his demands as far as mobility (I had to pay taxi fare to get to work) – and a lot of work COULD HAVE BEEN DONE FROM HOME, lessening my exhaustion level – for which he couldn’t have cared less.

Now, he overloads me with stuff that’s just not my area (graphics design, securities trading specifics which are not my job to know, personal communication to his family members) and pelts me with phone messages all day long, when I have told him emails would suit some info much better – I would not have to sift through long rambling phone messages where I have sift between his thinking out loud and irrelevant comments, mistakes and repeats when a simple email would do, to capture important technical details.

I go to work trying to be grateful, but resenting each new assault of ridiculous high maintenance stuff he loads me up with. I have enough office-manager and IT work to keep me busy and I resent his dumping personal communication to family and graphics crap on my plate when I have many other things to be responsible for.

This drives me so nuts I have been on medication to deal with my work-related stress since I ended up in the wheelchair (now out for some time, but still stressed). He will not give me paid vacation or any benefits, he just expects I should accommodate/tolerate his absent-mindedness and refusal to give me simple things in writing.

If he was appreciative and honored my strengths and weaknesses, it would be different. But he just keeps dumping more in my direction, and I keep getting resentful. Talking about it does no good because he thinks he's too good to make mistakes or learn to work in partnership with the person who takes the most crap from him.

How can I stop hating every day until I find a new job? It’s affecting my relationships and my life and I can’t afford not to work.

Just because you were hurt and the employer COULD have made accommodations for you to work from home, it doesn't mean that he HAS to do so. You work at the convenience of your employer, not the other way around. An executive assistant often times has demand put upon him or herself, because that's your job. Your boss is a busy executive, you are his right hand, to pick up the slack. As for sending you voice-mail instead of email, if that's what he likes, its his prerogative to use his preferred communication method. If you do this much for this man, use this leverage to get a pay raise to the point where you are happier to do the work, because you're getting paid for the crap that you're being asked to do.