Ok, here we go, about five months ago my little sister graduated from High School, so in a good act of kindness and being the fact that she was going to need a car to go to college, I gave her my 1998 Cobra, as a gift of course, no money asked from my parents or nothing like that, and since she always liked the car and I already have a '03 Cobra, I thought, "Oh well, what the hell!!" right?, well, recently, my dad and I acquired some furniture with a joint account, and about a month ago, we both received a letter from the furniture store with a deal to cut down the monthly payments and the interest rate if we payed $300 dollars to sign a new deal, my dad got confused and he signed my deal instead of his, so he ended up paying my $300 dollars, now, he hasn't said anything to me about paying him back, but he has talked to my mom and my brother about it, I know that I chose to give my car to my sister as a gift, and I never asked for any money, even though my parents offer to give me some, but I declined, now, knowing this, should I pay him back, after I saved him the hassle of getting my sister a new car and knowing that if I had sold my car I would've gotten at least $8000 dollars for it? I haven't had the chance to talk to him directly because of my work, but knowing my dad, I know he wants his money back, so I guess a little outside-the-problem feedback would really help me to sort this out!! in advance, thanks for all of your answers!!

You are engaging in psychobabble.

You are rationalizing your behavior. You made a gift. It's over and done with. while you may think the car was worth $8000, it probably wasn't and you certainly can't go back in time and take it back.

If this is *your* furniture, you need to pay your father back. Pull him aside and ask him how he'd like to handle this. As in, do I pay with cash or a check.

By stalling an rationalizing, you are making this worse. You've already heard through the family grapevine that dad wants his money back. You didn't need to be reminded even once, let alone by mom, brother and going, well gee, dad hasn't said anything.